Teaching and/or Learning, whose responsibility is it anyway?

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Having taught/lectured/trained hundreds of quite good Electrical Engineering students over a period of 9 years, from extremely diverse social,economic,educational, religious and cultural backgrounds, I am still puzzled by the huge misalignment between students' and lecturers' perceived roles and responsibilities of themselves and each other within the 'teaching and learning' space. Most often than  never, both parties want to place most of the responsibility and blame on the other. How can we reconcile the two??

This has bred a culture of complaining and lack of sincere initiative on both parties, ending in a blame game, and scathing student evaluations come semester end. Overall, not a very conducive environment to grow future leaders.